Word War

By:  Ria Lucindo

Mother scolding a naughty child at play.

       As I was hurriedly getting my kindergartner ready this morning, screams and grunts are audible just about anywhere in the house. I mentally prepared myself for the battle ahead before I even got out of bed.
He slept late last night so I know getting up and getting ready will not be easy. I guess some battles are just unavoidable.

 

       Needless to say, having kids around requires me to always watch what I say.   For a Christian, you do not need to have kids around to be mindful of what comes out of your mouth. In James 3:5-6, apostle James emphasizes just how words can make or break someone.

 

I have this wrong concept that a parent has to be a perfect model at all times but God is teaching me that I need to model how to handle everyday defeats just as much as the good behavior.

 
       For a mother, it is not only about controlling what I say in front of my children, but also how I say it. I maybe saying something “nice” to my husband but uttering it with a condescending attitude. I know that as young as my kids are, they can totally pick it up. Or I may not be screaming at my daughter, but my facial expression is suggests that unsaid message. Sometimes we blurt out words without thinking, whether it is an innocent comment or a habitual expression.  Truthfully, once those words reach someone’s ears, it may not be as nonchalant or trivial as we intended. It may pierce with cruelty.
 
       My son got out of the door on time, but not without drama. Yes, we were screaming so early in the morning. But we apologized to each other and prayed to do better the next day. I’m glad we parted with encouraging words because it really made my day.
 

       I have this wrong concept that a parent has to be a perfect model at all times but God is teaching me that I need to model how to handle everyday defeats just as much as the good behavior.

 

Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. – James 3:5-6